Often times in life things happen and we’re stuck between sticking around or letting go, but isn’t there more to it than that for the one having to make the decision? Memories that were made that we soon have to let go of because if cling to them we’ll be stuck in this endless cycle of our past haunting us but if we move on we’re afraid that someone will get hurt, why is it we wait til we’re suffering to suddenly care about others? You see we pride ourselves in being open and being understanding maybe even in being kind but we’re selective. No one ever said it’d be easy to let go of something you’ve held onto for years or even months. Like a child who has a favorite toy or blanket, we carry it wherever we go and if we lose it, replacing it is not an option because it isn’t the same. So we’re stuck with this tough choice of letting go or remaining at bay, but let me tell you something. Does a boat go anywhere if it forever remains docked? If all you did was remain at bay with your thoughts then eventually one might become paranoid. But, what if I don’t wanna let go? What if I could fix it? What if we just were friends? What if we just took some time apart? These are all excuses to justify clinging to the past when you know deep down the right thing to do is move on. The decision and process won’t be easy but in the end it is well worth it because you learn from your past. Something, this current day and age can’t fathom. Our past does not provoke us, if we looked at it properly our past is a chance to learn and change to not be what used to be. But we can’t move on, so we try to erase it like it is a mistake. When will we see that if it is a mistake then why haven’t we learned from it? If you never learn from it, will it not repeat itself until you do learn from it? You cling to your past because the future scares you.. maybe I am wrong maybe the future doesn’t scare you but your past does. Our fears thrive greatly when we give it power. The more power we allow it, the more likely we are to live life in a vicious circle of remembering our past & reliving it. Fear wants nothing more than to hold you down like a ball & chain so that you feel as if you will never overcome it. Like our inability to move on fear keeps us from doing so by making us think the real solution is no solution at all. Being stuck between moving on or staying put is tough for some because it means letting go of people, places, or maybe things and staying put means that you’ll forever keep remembering memories of those people, places, and things. There is a third option that most of us take and it is the worst choice, that is to ignore it. To ignore it, is to not only make it worse but it’ll fade and then come back stronger and overwhelm you. By ignoring it all, you merely place it on a shelf in your brain and at some point your brain will pick it up off the shelf only for you to say, “I thought I was done with this?”, you aren’t done because instead of choosing to be freed or stay at bay you chose to do neither and wound up getting capsized by the wave wondering what you did wrong. It is like getting a dent in your parents brand new car and trying to act like you did nothing wrong, not only are they gonna find out but the consequences are much tougher because of the choice you made. Because when it comes down to it our hurt and pain is intensified by us because we make it out to be that way. Some might say that’s really mean but if you think about it, we make it worse on ourselves by not moving on from the past. Choosing to move on means growth, choosing to stay put means no growth & living in the past. Which one do you choose?
Just because you, yourself don’t like it or support it.. doesn’t mean you have to force your agenda upon others. As a believer the common issue is that some believers push there belief on others.. but genuine believers know that this is the wrong approach. Accepting or rejecting is up to you. Now you might be wondering why I used this as an example.. because people of other religious beliefs or people pushing there views of politics are very harshly shoving there agenda down people’s throats so it isn’t just Christians who do this, many do it. It’s not tied down to one belief.
It’s okay to disagree and have an opinion on things.. that’s the great thing about freedom of speech. But when you start labeling people bad names.. calling them idiots.. or worse. Freedom of speech doesn’t sound very free. What America right now has utterly failed to realize.. is we have come a long, long, way from what it used to be.. but some of us are still living in the past & find it offensive.. so take it out of school books (or refuse to teach it), before I get labeled any sort of names.. hear me out here, we live in a day & age where we try to over protect ourselves. We wanna walk in a safe bubble, no harm, no bad language, the list goes on. We want love, peace, and unity. America shows unity in times of hurt & heartbreak. But America is only unified when it chooses to be these days. We are split in not 2, not 3, not even 4.. but multiple groups & each have negative things to say about the other.. how is that unity? We’ve gotten so used to being over protected and coddled that now when we don’t get what we think we deserve we make a scene.. cause A unnecessary ruckus. Let’s be real here.. most the time, we are sheep who follow trends because it is popular. Take the music industry for instance right now.. lot of artists are not trying to be different anymore.. they’re all claiming the same thing just calling it different names because it is what is popular & they wanna remain top 10. Some of us do this very same thing with our social media accounts.. we throw gasoline on a fire because it gives us attention & popularity. We idolize fame, money, and celebrities. In scripture’s terms, “we worship creation over The Creator”. We’ve failed to grasp that fact that it is okay to be wrong.. because we in our eyes we are right. I’ve deterred off my main point here.. let me bring it back.
Lastly, I think it’s important we all have different opinions but your opinion doesn’t triumph anyone else’s it is strictly your opinion for a reason. Sadly, we currently live in a time where having your opinion is frowned upon & mocked by news stations.. blog sites.. and even on social media. People want unity.. but let me paint you a reality check.. it will NEVER happen. Why? Because everyone is different.. we have different views and that’s what makes us, us. If we were to be robots with all the same mindsets.. God would have created us like it. You know how boring it would be to simply follow anything and everything everyone else did every single day for the rest of your life? We like sheep, are trying to do this daily.. we hold our standards to looking good compared to models, actresses, or other people of popularity and we spend so much time trying to be alike someone but lose what makes us unique. Weird? Embrace it, it is after all what makes you, you. God created us all different for a reason and we keep spending day after day… trying to push that everyone needs to be the same.. follow this path.. have these thoughts.. and if you do not then well your stupid and uneducated. That’s not how it works people! I think i’ll end on this point..
Freedom of speech.. is becoming a thing of the past because when we raise our voices we are heavily scrutinized today not just by a few people but even the media chimes in if it can create enough of a ruckus. Opinions are exactly just that.. opinions. But we say hurtful things, spread hate, and cause unnecessary divisions all in an attempt to feed off the attention we get. If we steer clear of it, don’t engage in it, you have no reason to be upset or bitter or have hatred. If we let a lot of these petty things go and just enjoyed the life we have been gifted by God. Finally, we live in a fallen world that needs Jesus. Be a good example of Christlikeness & remain humble.
Most the time when we think suffering some conclude that it’s of Satan so we instantly begin praying for it to be removed from us.. and for those people.. when it isn’t we wonder why we are being punished.. why God isn’t listening.. and we go on with this list of how we’ve been living right.. going to church.. being in Scripture.. praying so why in the world are we dealing with this? Because contrary to what we’ve been told religiously God does test our obedience to see if it’s true. If you think that’s not right.. i’ll let you take that argument to Paul and you can tell him how unfair it is. I don’t mean that to come across like i’m being a smarty pants.. I want you to get the point that if ANYONE had a right to say suffering is unfair.. it was Paul. We complain about suffering whereas Paul found joy in his suffering cause he knew what he was suffering for! He counted all things a total loss compared to Christ. But to most Christians, we never really conclude that we too suffer as well.. we think “I came to Christianity to escape suffering & struggles & trials.” Again.. you might wanna re-evaluate why you truly came to the faith if that be the case.
Something we often times don’t even think about is that God wants us to come to Him in the midst of our suffering.. but instead a lot of times we just stick to handling it ourselves and wonder why this isn’t leaving or budging. Because you’re relying on the wrong person.. you’re relying on self & not God or maybe you’re relying on friends to help you every single time things get tough.. your friends aren’t always gonna be there & then what? You can’t just sit and shut down & suffer silently.. that just leads to bitterness then anger and eventually hatred. None of which will help you.. in fact they stunt your growth as a believer and you’re truly unusable by God if you’re filled with hate & bitterness. But why am I suffering in the first place, I didn’t choose this when I asked Jesus into my heart? Actually.. when you accepted Jesus into your heart you denied self, killed the old you.. became a new creation in Christ & embraced suffering. EMBRACED?! No, I didn’t! Check Scripture, The disciples embraced it. It’s not gonna be different for us.
The more you read Scripture yourself the more you’ll soon understand that suffering is part of our walk of faith. In our obedience to God.. we will face suffering whether it be sickness, hurt, pain, maybe even death for the sake of the Gospel.
People may just leave the faith due to this and some do. But what they failed to realize when they came to the faith in the first place is that genuine Christianity isn’t some get rich quick plan or a get out of hell free card. And lot of Christians treat it as just this.. in the face of ANY kind of suffering they flee & hide or worse.. they compromise there faith to appease the masses & use Scripture to justify them doing so.
Are you embracing suffering? Are you seeking God in your suffering or seeking self? Are you denying self daily & renewing your mindset so that you can be focused on the things above and not the things of this world? In the midst of your suffering, who do you have more trust in?
There’s this figurative box we’ve placed Christianity in, some of you might remember this argument it was more talked on about 2 years ago. It seems nowadays it isn’t spoken on really anymore cause we’ve basically welcomed with open arms this boxed in version of Christianity. You remember going to Walmart when you were younger and they sold the clean version of CD’s and to get the explicit versions you had to go to Target or somewhere else? This is basically what we’ve done Christianity. To find the genuine Christianity and not these comfy ear tickling messages you’ve gotta really search. What people don’t realize is American Christianity isn’t the Scripture version of Christianity. I’ll let you soak that in.. cause i’m sure when you read that you’re wondering what I mean by that & if that isn’t the what we label Christianity here isn’t the true one, what is?
First off, I wanna tell you I can relate to those of you wondering what this means exactly, 2 years ago when I heard those words & started really digging into Scripture I was upset at first because not only was I merely following religion I, myself had made up some rules and views that weren’t in Scripture. Secondly, you’re wondering what those were and I don’t mind sharing them but I also don’t wanna distract from my intent with this post so I’ll share a couple. First one was I had this idea that God only wanted to hear my pains & hurt.. reason behind that thought was because everyone I watched only seemed to pray to God when they were struggling. But this isn’t at all the case, God wants to hear the good & the bad, I once read a book (forgot the name) but it said this, “We should talk to God like we do our closest friends.” That stuck with me. Sadly, we’ve created this box & have duped people with our teaching’s that God only wants to hear us in our pains and nothing more. Second one, that God somehow vanishes in our struggles & ignores us. I had this thought that God just didn’t listen. I’m not the only one who believes this though.. I’ve witnessed a lot of people who are struggling who think this similar thought and they wanna know why God is punishing them/ ruining there life. But God doesn’t vanish.. and have you ever thought for a second God is testing your faith? Testing to see if you’re serious or if you’re just a occasional Christian. I read recently that Satan merely wants to destroy our faith.. but God shows His power and uses what Satan intends & uses it for good instead of what Satan intended. We give more credit to Satan than we should.. we accredit him more than we should & that’s how he wins. When we keep accrediting him & keep blaming God.. Satan has fooled us. After all isn’t Satan’s intention to drive a wedge & destroy our faith? The occasional believer is no threat to Satan, the genuine believer is. But Lucas.. why is the occasional believer not a threat? Cause they’ve believed the lie.. they aren’t as serious about there faith & choose when & what to believe which is not at all what Scripture stands for or what God calls. Last one, we don’t find joy in our struggles. Paul did, why don’t we? We spend so much time.. moping and making it way worse than it really is.. we post it all over social media we feed off the attention. Instead of seeking God through it.. learning from our mistakes we get stuck in a cycle wondering why we can’t escape it.. reason why? Cause you haven’t learned, haven’t trusted God, and have been trying over and over to handle it yourself.
Now that you know some things I learned the hard way.. I want you to know just exactly why we’ve boxed in Christianity. The blind view is that putting “Christian” in front of everything makes it “good” completely false. How many books in Christian book stores do you think are Scripturally sound? How many Christian artists would you say are focused on God more than putting money in there wallets? Some Christian artists just use the label to get money.. did you know that? I wanna address the common the misconception with Christians.. just because you don’t like a genre doesn’t mean it is satanic.. I grew up being put down cause I listened to hard rock music, rap music, and metal music. I got told “how is that glorifying God?”, “there yelling into a microphone, that’s demonic!”. “God is only glorified by contemporary Christian music.” Gonna burst your bubble here.. but have you ever thought ALL things can be used to glorify God? Let’s apply Christmas & Halloween into this.. You might be thinking Halloween!? how!? Remember when churches used to do Judgement houses? Most the time these were done on Halloween to give people a depiction of Heaven & Hell. Although.. I think we stopped doing them cause it gave us too real of a depiction or possibly we felt too guilty whatever the case ALL things can be used to glorify God yet we keep trying to box in Christianity. Tell me something.. have you found a Christian plumber? Chances are it’s a plumber who is a believer. So why is it we HAVE to put the label in front of ourselves? I don’t tell people I’m Christian.. they know it by my posts.. how I live & what I believe. We put the label in front of ourselves to feel cozy & Christianity in NO way is meant to be cozy. We started labeling everything “Christian this or that” cause we thought we had to in order for it to be “good”, not true. God created all things to in turn bring glory to Him even the animals glorify God.. try and wrap your mind around that one!
So why the label? Why do we have to tell people we are Christian? The answer is simple.. we shouldn’t have to. Our lives should reflect it.. our actions should speak it. But instead we throw out the label cause we wanna feel cozy & instead of following God.. we’ve decided to follow a bunch religious bologna that we deem true & it in no way is Scriptural. We’ve created this comfort zone & anyone who steps outside this box they are “sellouts, compromised, Satan is clouding them, or we discredit them completely as a believer and they just used the label for money”.. it’s really heartbreaking how judgmental believers are these days.. we cling to judging others but our judging is far from righteous judgment. We may claim it is.. but really we’ve disguised our stones we cast just so we can cast said judgment. We used to argue between one another about how people were selling out & compromising now all we don’t speak a word of it cause we’ve gotten so comfy in our flesh we just embrace it. So lastly.. I wanna say this.
When are we gonna read Scripture ourselves instead of relying on TV pastors.. or friends or even some person on social media as our go to for devotion time? That’s why so many lack faith.. so many lack trust in God.. so many lack because they do not read Scripture nor pray. We don’t test what we hear by looking at Scripture we just go off the “he said she said” stuff. We only embrace God when we want something.. We only feel blessed when we are getting things.. any other time we are silent. We get serious in church.. but come Monday morning we are a completely different person. This boxed in faith we have is not what Christ died for.. this boxed in faith is not God’s intent.. believers wake up!
Have you boxed in your faith & grown too comfy? Time to get out of the recliner and change that.
Let’s address the elephant in the room here, believers are wavering not silently but boldly falling away because the world seems like a much better option than a book that was written years ago that to some has zero relevance in today’s world to a lot of people. That’s a harsh fact. We keep wanting to follow scripture but.. follow it only on sunday’s. What happened to the church & why is she gathering in silent when we still have a right in US to speak up? I’ll tell you why.. popularity & money are just two things that keep people from standing up. I said once before that to some us believers.. the world gives us this nice juicy steak labeled “you can follow God and still worship the world” and many of us believers would make a line longer than a football field to get a bite of this steak. False teachers & preachers are serving you this same steak & you treat them like a god themselves. Why? How does this happen? Firstly, let’s address how, failure to read scripture yourself and failure to apply it to your daily life is how. We keep following this friend or that friend or we follow that one guy on twitter who posts about God daily. We follow twitter profiles that tweet verses & to most.. that is our devotional time. Read a verse.. done, then Sunday rolls around & we all of a sudden fired up for Jesus. If Jesus still walked the earth now.. what do you think He would say about this? You see here’s why I ask that.. Jesus knows our intent. So if your this “sunday” only Christian do you think Jesus would simply not address the elephant in the room? Of course He would address it to you, He did this a few times even to his Disciples. Church used to be this place for the broken.. now it’s a place of greed.. we care more about the money in our pockets than the REAL reason for why we are at church. This isn’t me saying never attend church.. it is very important to fellowship among other brothers & sisters. I just grow tired & weary of hearing the excuse of how church is filled with hypocrites.. when people are misinformed about the church from the start and fail to realize it is a place filled with broken people seeking Christ. When you stand before God.. your excuse for why you never attended church is worthless just like your excuse for why you had “no time” for scripture will be worthless. That maybe harsh.. but what would be the point in lying to you about it?
You see, we live in a time where man follows man and by that I mean we follow celebrities.. sports players.. Musicians.. and whatever they do or say we blindly follow it. Some might ask questions before doing so, but they still will follow their idol. We cling to everything but God… we worship everything but God.. and we listen to everyone but God. Some of us are out here.. only following bits & pieces of scripture because if we read the other parts it’d address our wrongdoings and that offends us so we ignore it. We’ll talk about love… grace… mercy… but we ignore sin as if it doesn’t exist. Homosexuality? it’s not wrong, scripture is outdated. Porn? Not wrong, scripture is. Sex before marriage? Not wrong, Scripture needs an update. You may not know this.. but scripture doesn’t need an update like an app on your phone.. in fact Scripture is very much still accurate & relevant. You do realize that these issues addressed in scripture were just as much a major problem as they are now right? People in Jesus day may not have had the internet to freely browse such websites but it was an issue. See.. people argue because they wanna justify there wrongdoing but arguing it doesn’t make it any less wrong. You see.. we have a sin problem but right the world caters to sin. Normally this is where believers take to FB and twitter and say something like.. “WE NEED TO PUT GOD BACK IN THIS NATION”… when was He ever in it? It seems the only time we want ANYTHING to do with God is when we are getting something “blessings” we like to call them. But scripture itself even tells us not to store up treasures on earth and to store them in Heaven. (I also wanna add that the same scripture also says “it’d be easier for camel to fit through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter heaven” paraphrased.) We keep knit picking what passages to follow and what ones that offend us we ignore.. you can’t ignore them simply cause you think they are wrong. Scripture is not wrong, yeah you can disagree/reject scripture but if you are a believer you can’t just skip over what verses offend you. That word.. “offend” has been used a lot recently mainly due to current events in our country but it is also used quite often among believers & non-believers too.
For some.. we’ve made a habit out of using the word so we don’t have to admit we are wrong. Others, use it just so they can start breaking into stores & stealing & even hurting others. As believers we are called to reach out to the lost.. but for some churches & believers that’s a bit below our pay grade & we wouldn’t reduce ourselves to such a level… which breaks my heart because Jesus & his disciples did just that. I include Jesus’s disciples because some people like to create the argument “well i’m not Jesus, now am i?” No you aren’t.. but aren’t we supposed to give to the needy? Reach the lost? And love our neighbors? At what point are you able to decide that something is beneath you? Better yet.. when you gave your life to Christ doesn’t that mean you denied self.. picked up your cross & are following Jesus? So since when did Scripture or Jesus himself say that helping the needy was beneath Him? Only the pharisees and other religious men of the Bible thought it to be that way cause they only cared about themselves and the power they had to strike fear in people if someone broke “THERE” laws.
Right now we live in this time where everything is offensive.. I’d name some but i’ll not stir up an unnecessary dissension. Believers are on the brink of either leaving church or following there own path because we as believers keep neglecting the needy.. ignoring the hurt.. and we stay silent on issues within and out of the church when we SHOULD address them. Everyone thinking.. no no.. keep quiet that’s not very Christian of you..
Let me address this.. if you follow American Christianity you’ve been duped. Greed, compromise, and fame are not Gospel centered. Last time I checked genuine Christianity.. spoke of hell, redemption, Jesus, faith, and eternal life in Heaven. American Christianity is basically one of our Sunday religions.. like football. Some of us are more excited about who is playing on Sunday than Scripture or church. You ever noticed how sometimes.. when a Pastor announces what passage he will preaching on next sunday that if someone doesn’t agree to it.. they go to another church or just stay at home? What are you gonna do when all churches preach on that subject just fully quit? Someone at some point is gonna ask me.. what do you mean by American Christianity? I thought there was only one? There was only one until the world decided to create it’s own little watered down version that tickles ears. Let’s be real here.. a lot of us Christians worship this watered down version & others stand against this version but we keep silent about it cause we feel it not to be our place to address.. if you don’t address it who will? If you feel you need to do something and don’t do it, what does scripture say about that?
I often wonder to myself.. “what would Jesus or Paul would say if they walked into our churches?” When I ponder it.. I see a lot of people walking out the doors & very few staying. Why? Firstly, I wanna say a long while back there was the argument that we had and are boxing in Christianity to this argument I would 100% agree and say that we still are doing just that because we think the only people who need reaching are other Christians. Musicians try to reach other musicians? OH HE SOLD OUT.. you’re not a Christian.. just used the label for money. Someone starts helping the poor & needy.. why would you do this? Why are you helping these people? Cause Jesus would.. “but you’re not Jesus, you could be using your talents to have fame.. popularity… and be rich” but Jesus was poor but rich. The disciples dropped everything to follow Him.. they relied on Jesus to even be fed and He provided every time.
Where’s your faith? Where’s your boldness? Are you planting yourself in Christ or are you just trying to appease the masses? Are you gonna speak up or remain silent when you know you should say something? Are you gonna keep playing the “i’m offended card” or are we actually gonna seek change for the better? God is good, God bless.
Firstly, I want to say this is in no way to divide or cause more issues within us believers. I want this to be seen as a wake up not as something I typed up to stir a hornets nest. I know some might see this as typed out of pride or i’m whining and it is far from that.
For sometime now and just recently we’ve become consumed by changing our label (this is not aimed at one person or label this goes out to all believers) we’ve gone from not being ashamed to be called Christian to not wanting to be associated with the label “Christian” but why does that bug us? What happened to our Romans 1:16 faith? Did Paul hate being labeled a believer? Did any disciple of Christ not like being deemed a follower of Jesus? Why are we trying to turn Christianity into a “private only” matter? Something we only do on our time? Musicians are focusing on art and there faith is more of a personal thing but what suffers when we keep our faith silent and among ourselves? Are we furthering the kingdom then? I wanna answer something.. It was told to me by a good friend, “It doesn’t matter what you label yourself or how you wanna be labeled” If you believe in God and it shows you’ll be labeled “Christian this or that” I can’t stress enough for you just how much we’ve gone on this tangent for far too long and we’ve mislead many due to our opinions or we think the believer typing something like this is “always wrong or being selfish or they’re jealous” it’s not that. Scripture calls us to correct and be open to correction but why is it we shut out all correction and label them “in the wrong or out of pride”? The one speaking out soon gets silenced by all the other believers due to them shunning him/her. I can’t express enough that if we deem everything right or wrong one says, how can we correct out of love? This has not ever been a private manner but we’ve turned into that. Again I repeat myself in saying, Where is our Romans 1:16 faith at?
Mostly, it seems every time a believer has spoken out against them it is perceived wrong by many other believers but one look at scripture would tell you that we can’t deem everything a Christian does as right especially if it is not Scriptural. We live in a world where right now it’s filled with hate, anger, constant finger pointing, accusations, corruption, and division. Everyone wants to be right, everyone wants to fight against something whether it be for the right cause or a wrong one. Everyone wants to argue.. but arguing has done nothing but divide us. Fighting has done nothing but turn into violence. Rioting has done nothing either but get people arrested and we claim we’re getting arrested to be kept silent. If you break in buildings.. damage property.. you’re not furthering a cause.. you are not fighting for anything. My point in all this is not to claim to be a “know it all” or to be unreachable or not be corrected. But I am here to stand up and say it’s time believers stop following artists who are condoning worldly actions and passions and still claiming that it is okay. We keep trying to disconnect ourselves from anything Christian and if your actions show you are a believer you will always be a Christian. Doesn’t matter if you are a painter, plumber, carpenter, but yet we keep trying to disconnect from the label Christian in an attempt to reach the world and we’ve done nothing but create confusion. We’ve divided the church through all this and part of it wants to embrace the world the other half is praying the other half comes to their senses and realizes what there doing is wrong. We keep wanting to reach the world, but in an attempt to reach the world we wind up letting non-believers impact how we go about sharing our faith. What we’ve done is go from sharing the Gospel to making a quick buck. Instead of changing what’s happening we’d rather sweep it under a rug than change it. Rather than help a brother or sister, we keep ignoring it. How much longer are we gonna continue to ignore it and not wake up?
How do we fix this? Well.. we know the answer isn’t ignoring it. We know the answer isn’t trying to silence the believers speaking out on it. We know the answer should be out of grace and love. We know the answer should be Scripture centered. Even though it is Scripture based the heartbreaking thing is that some will still dismiss it and say we are using the piece of scripture out of context. Our Romans 1:16 faith isn’t as “Bold” and “Unashamed” as it used to be. Sure on twitter or Facebook or any social media we can present that boldness and unashamed attitude but what about outside of that? You can be what you want on the internet and some of us choose to be “Scholars of Scripture” and all there is to know about it. But what we wind up being is someone who is un-correctable and we risk putting ourselves on a pedestal. What happened? How did we get here? For some time we’ve gotten to the point to where God is not the center of what we do rather it is us following our desires and passions that we want but telling others it is “God’s will” I’m not claiming to know anyone’s intent. Actions speak louder than words and you will know them by their fruits. If what they are doing is God centered it will show. Can we still go off course? Yes. Our issue is our emotions fuel what we do and say. We go off of emotions over anything else. Now you might be thinking, “what does this have to do with the label Christian?” It has everything to do with it, because out of emotion we do not want to be seated with other believers we want to associate with the world and still follow God. What happened to not serving two masters? Why are we trying to suit the world and God? Have we not learned that the world has shown us time and time again it cannot and will not ever be satisfied? This world is fallen and it needs Jesus but it keeps rejecting Him and wanting nothing to do with Him so why else do you think we have been given over to the desires of our hearts? Because God is not at our center, He is not our foundation. We keep following our heart and it is the most deceitful and yet we keep telling more people “follow your heart” NO! Follow God instead, deny self, and remain faithful. We can’t keep going off our emotions and hearts. God knows our intent and yet we try to hide, excuse, or plead as if our case will stand (it doesn’t and won’t). It’s time we woke up and realized that not everything typed is out of pride.. not everything typed is false nor should be dismissed.
This last thing is tough to type, but i’m gonna type it regardless but I ask that you bare with me and keep in mind my intent is to bring all glory to God not myself.
It’s clear to me that believers just want to stone one another over who is right and who is wrong. It’s clear to me that this world has impacted Christianity by telling believers they can still follow their hearts desire and still be Christian. It’s become clear to me, that believers can’t agree to disagree we simply block/ignore any who don’t believe as we do. Where is the openness to correction in that? Where is the love in that? Would Christ ignore us? God knows our hearts intent and still listens to us.. think about that for a moment. We’re turning Christianity into a selfish belief when it is selfless. Genuine Christianity isn’t selfish, greedy, nor hateful. Yet somehow we’ve made it about “me” when it has and always will be about God. All these things I’ve typed about above.. we’ve decided that art can be both about us and God when it should always be about God. We’ve decided no believer who speaks against us is right in anyway. We’ve decided that to reach a broken world we must compromise our faith to reach it. If compromise is involved then you shouldn’t even consider it. God is first in everything right? Or is it career then God? To some it’s Career, money, friendship, relationships,kids, then if we have time God. We don’t take our faith seriously enough.. we don’t pray enough.. we don’t study scripture enough and we’ve allowed the world to mold and shape our thoughts over Scripture. We’ve allowed the world to tell us what pieces of Scripture to believe and what to exclude. In the end, are we gonna keep letting the world shape us or are we gonna let God transform us into man/woman of God? We can’t keep chasing selfish desires. We can’t keep chasing what we wanna be labeled and what we don’t wanna be labeled. We can’t keep serving two masters. We can’t keep letting our emotions make decisions for us. We must deny self, renew our mindsets, kill our fleshly passions and desires, and seek God. We can’t keep seeking our own desires or our “doing me” tendencies. We must keep furthering the Kingdom and stop dividing it. Let’s actually create change instead of divisions of cliques and groupies. Let’s be open to correction. Let’s stop wanting this label or that label or not wanting this label or that label and let’s chase after Christ, that’s what should matter most. God first in everything not just in some things.
It’s very common these days for people to want to be in a relationship, not a bad thing, but where it becomes an issue is we get hurt and instead of learning from it we just jump right into another relationship. Not only are we avoiding the hurt, but we’re avoiding the lesson to be learned from what happened. It’s like we refuse and the more we do it the more we are gonna care less about anyone or even our own feelings. Yes, these days it is very common to look around and see everyone you know happy and smiling and in a relationship. Then it hits you, what about me? Where’s the person to make me happy? Where’s the person I can share these special moments with? We get that brief moment of sadness and loneliness, we’ve all had it happen to us at some point. Whether we want to confirm or deny it. A lot of times though, we let that get to us and we go on this search. We look under rocks and in bushes searching for what we call “Mr/Mrs Right.” Let me be the first to tell you I don’t believe in “the one” I don’t believe there is someone just out there waiting for you. I solemnly believe that we meet someone and it either works or doesn’t. But I will say you will know when you’ve met that someone (as I type this as a single male). You will know but the stigma and fantasy we’ve created, ladies, that there is some man on a white horse wearing shiny armor and he is so dreamy and he has everything we see in a guy. Dudes, there is no such thing as a perfect woman and ladies there is no such thing as a perfect dude. No matter who you meet, there will be something about them but it’s not gonna be the dividing point between you. The foolish thing that seems to be a reoccurring theme is people date, get married, without even getting to know each other and really the only thing they’ve shared is intimacy with one another and they’ve not even bothered to get know one another. When all you explore is sex with each other and you base that off whether you’ll get married or not it is no shock that 50% of marriages end in divorce. Not very happy to hear is it? But it’s true, there is a 50/50 that your marriage is gonna workout. Let’s step away from that statistic for a moment.
I wanna talk to you about the factor of you can either get to know yourself better or you can just jump into relationships just cause and not have any serious intent. Let be the one to say that if you don’t take relationships seriously, you shouldn’t be in one. Let me also make clear that if you can’t maintain a stable relationship, then you probably shouldn’t be in one. It’s all the rave these days to have “friends with benefits” but let me explain something to you here, you don’t really maintain a “friendship” with the person you’re sleeping with. There’s more to it than that. That person you’re sleeping with, you’re sharing a special moment with that originally was meant to be shared after marriage. which is the whole point of marriage for you to share your intimate moment with that one person. Before you condemn me and say i’m judging those who haven’t done that, i’m not. I’m simply stating what happens each time you share an “intimate” moment with someone. Would you also be surprised to know that gradually over time you feel nothing if you just went around sleeping around? So that’s why most men or women who do, do that don’t really “feel” anything emotion wise cause it’s something they do like a habit so they have no “special” feeling towards the person they’re with. But here’s where change things a bit, my reason behind this is for you to ask yourself “Am I actually ready for such a commitment or do I need to get things together in my life?” Let me express to you that if your excuse for not dating is “things aren’t perfect,” spoiler alert! Things are never gonna be perfect. Life is gonna throw you curve balls. Things are gonna pop up. You’re gonna face some difficult times even in or not in a relationship. But the beauty of it is, if you’re in a relationship you can come out of that struggle stronger and a better couple. But the common issue is, we push away the other to go “handle it.” Let me also add that if you two get married, and you have to push away so you can “handle it” it’s not healthy on your relationship or marriage.
My title for this “giving in or letting go of a relationship” because people don’t know how to do either (myself included) from experience I learned the hard way. We either jump into something with no serious intent or we break up then immediately start looking again. We take no time to ourselves to learn, grow, and not make the same mistake or have the same problem again. For some us, we keep having the same issue in a relationship and we wonder “why, me!?” Maybe if we took the time to ourselves and realized the problem was and has been re-occurring for quite sometime and the solution has been there but we’ve been avoiding it, we wouldn’t be asking why. Secondly, we make the big mistake of saying “i love you” within a week of dating or we just say to be saying it. I love you has become one of those things we just say and no longer has that special feeling when said. We given it so many definitions it’s crazy. We run high on emotions and say things we shouldn’t only to wake up the next day to see what we’ve said and we then realize what we said wasn’t at all serious. I caution you not to say empty words to him or her cause in the end IT WILL bite you in the butt. We keep running into this issue of he really likes her but she is interested in someone else or its vice versa. The problem with it? We fail to be honest for fear of hurting them. Another spoiler, No matter how nice you try to break it to them it is still gonna hurt but it will hurt less if you tell them immediately and not weeks, months, or years making them think they have a chance. We fail to be honest and we feel the need to just throw our problems on someone hoping it gets fixed but when it doesn’t we up and leave the person. Here’s where people get it wrong about relationships, he or she is not gonna fix your problems. Take a look at the bigger picture here, Here we have a guy who has some struggles and here we have a lady who has some struggles. They seek to date each other, along that relationship they may come across struggles but they should do it together not one handle it themselves. Let me just add if you’re putting your all into something and the other isn’t someone needs to tell you or you need to tell yourself to wake up cause in no way is that right nor healthy. The problems these two had separately they can help one another with, by encouraging or showing care. Doesn’t have to be “you need to do this, this, and this” sorta thing. Although some of us are very stubborn and we have to be told that.
My last point is this, when it comes to a relationship don’t jump the gun and think you need one to be happy. You can be single and be happy (contrary to what most believe). It’s not miserable, it doesn’t suck either. Chances are if you think being single boring then being in a relationship is gonna be boring to you too. Cause you’re unhappy about something about yourself and if you don’t take the time to yourself to find out things about yourself and examine yourself and change things in your life to be the best you can be. Then relationships are gonna be seen to you as more of a burden then a good thing. Relationships are great if you take them seriously. If you don’t then they’re very short lived and we are often times unhappy with what happens and point fingers at one another over what happened. Take it serious, don’t jump the gun, and be careful not to say something you shouldn’t. If you aren’t ready, don’t pressure yourself to do something you know you aren’t ready for.